[영어 팟캐스트] Life Kit - Going beyond 'sorry for your loss' when a friend is grieving

Going beyond 'sorry for your loss' when a friend is grieving

https://podcasts.apple.com/kr/podcast/life-kit/id1461493560?i=1000764993480

Going beyond 'sorry for your loss' when a friend is grieving

 

1. 단어정리

영단어	해석	팟캐스트	추가 예문
grieve	깊이 슬퍼하다, 애도하다	When you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, it’s overwhelming.	She is still grieving the loss of her father.
encompass	포함하다, 아우르다, 둘러싸다	It’s all encompassing.	A healthy lifestyle encompasses sleep, exercise, nutrition, and relationships.
paradoxical	역설적인, 모순되어 보이는	One of the best things you can do, which is going to sound maybe paradoxical, is to actually bring up the loss.	It may sound paradoxical, but accepting your anxiety can actually help reduce it.
unfurl	펼쳐지다, 서서히 드러나다	For a person who’s lost someone they love, their feelings about that loss unfurl throughout their life at their own pace.	Healing doesn’t happen all at once; it unfurls slowly over time.
destigmatize	낙인을 없애다, 부정적인 인식을 줄이다	The person grieving can talk about it, which destigmatizes grief and loss as a whole.	Talking openly about mental health can help destigmatize anxiety and depression.
colloquially	구어체로, 일상적인 말로, 흔히 말해서	Colloquially, sometimes you say, I can’t imagine what you’re going through.	It’s colloquially known as “brain fog.”
tangible	구체적인, 실제로 만질 수 있는, 분명히 이해할 수 있는	So just to sort of give a tangible example of what witnessing is, just imagine if you and I were out on a beach and Ilook out into the water and I say, gosh, can you see that in the distance?	Let me give you a tangible example of how this habit can reduce stress.
platitude	진부한 말, 뻔한 위로, 상투적인 표현	Everyone I spoke to for this episode felt misunderstood by one particular thing, platitudes.	When she was grieving, she didn’t want platitudes; she wanted someone to truly listen.
obligation	의무, 책임, 해야 한다는 부담감	They didn’t feel any obligation or responsibility or judgement or guilt around communicating what they were feeling.	You don’t have an obligation to explain your feelings before you’re ready.
sap	기운을 빼앗다, 에너지를 소진시키다	It feels like when you are grieving, you are just sapped of energy, even if you're not doing anything.	Stress can sap your energy, even when you get enough sleep.
transparency	투명성, 솔직함, 숨김없이 말하는 태도	In the interest of full transparency, I’m mailing the care package.	In the interest of full transparency, I haven’t finished the project yet.
tumor	종양	I remember talking with him after the surgery, and I asked him, so what like happened to that part of your brain where like the tumor was? Does it just like fill back in?	The doctor found a small tumor during the scan.
inoperable	수술할 수 없는, 수술이 불가능한	The tumor came back, and it was inoperable.	The cancer had spread too much and became inoperable.

 

2. 기억하고 싶은 문장

 

We’re talking about how to support people in your life who are grieving. : 우리는 네 삶 속에서 슬퍼하고 있는 사람들을 어떻게 지지할지에 대해 이야기하고 있다.

 

So it's really interesting, the changing of the seasons itself brings out that time, like the time when my brother got sick and then the time when finding out that we suddenly lost my father. So it's strange to have it tied to a season like that. : 참 신기한 게, 계절이 바뀌는 것만으로도 그때의 기억이 다시 떠오른다. 예를 들어 내 남동생/오빠가 아팠던 때, 그리고 우리가 갑자기 아버지를 잃었다는 것을 알게 되었던 때처럼. 그래서 그것이 그런 식으로 한 계절과 연결되어 있다는 것이 이상하다.

 

She says that supporting a grieving heart is about being a witness. : 그녀는 애도 중인 사람을 돕는다는 건, 그 사람의 슬픔을 옆에서 있는 그대로 지켜봐 주고 함께해 주는 것이라고 말한다.

 

Acknowledging that complicated relationship or making space for a person to share about it is another way of witnessing. : 그 사람과 고인 사이의 관계가 복잡했을 수 있다는 걸 인정해주거나, 그 사람이 그 관계에 대해 편하게 이야기할 수 있게 여지를 만들어주는 것도 슬픔을 함께 지켜봐 주는 한 방식이다.

 

And just the same as you don't have to be the perfect supporter, the griefer doesn't have to be perfect in their grief either. : 그리고 네가 완벽한 지지자가 될 필요가 없는 것과 똑같이, 애도하는 사람도 자신의 슬픔 속에서 완벽할 필요가 없다.

 

Time heals all wounds. : 시간은 모든 상처를 치유한다.

 

Anything that starts with “at least”. : “적어도…”로 시작하는 말은 뭐든지.

 

3. 중요내용

애도 중인 사람들을 지지하는 방법

1) 슬픔을 목격해주고 그들이 잃은 사람을 언급하는 것을 두려워하지 말기

2) 무언가를 말하는 것이 어색하게 느껴질 수 있음 -> 진부한 위로는 피하고, 단순하더라도 가능한 한 구체적으로 말하기

3) 가능한 한 실질적인 도움을 주기

4) 시간이 지나도 계속 연락하기